There is a kind of power that doesn’t arrive through pushing, performing, or proving.
It arrives quietly… slowly… as you begin healing your nervous system gently, and your body finally stops living in defence mode.
For years I believed reclaiming power meant being louder.
Stronger.
More certain.
More “unshakeable.”
I thought sovereignty had to look commanding… as though I needed to declare to the world:
“I am powerful now!”
But real sovereignty didn’t come through force.
It came through safety.
It arrived when my nervous system began to stabilise and I no longer had to guard myself against life.
Power wasn’t adrenaline.
Power was relief.
Power was sitting with myself without bracing… letting my body exhale after years of carrying what was never meant to be carried alone.
True power doesn’t rush.
True power deepens.
True power roots into the earth of your body and whispers…
“You don’t need to fight to belong to yourself anymore.”
The Warrior Helped… but She Cannot Lead Forever
Most of us don’t begin our journey with softness.
We begin with survival.
We become the warrior… the protector… the one who refuses to collapse.
She saved us.
She learned how to sense danger before it arrived.
She learned how to be strong when nobody else could be.
She learned how to endure what should never have needed endurance.
And our nervous system began to organise itself around vigilance.
Hyper-awareness.
Anticipation.
Control.
The warrior isn’t wrong.
But when she becomes the only identity we trust… everything starts to feel like a battlefield.
Even peace can feel suspicious.
Love can feel risky.
Slowing down can feel threatening.
And when we talk about “calling our power back”… we often do it from tension, not sovereignty.
Healing your nervous system gently does not exile the warrior.
It honours her.
Then it slowly teaches the body that safety doesn’t only come from effort… it can also come from softening.
There are powers beyond the warrior…
The Empress.
The Mystic.
The Queen who leads without forcing.
They become available when your nervous system is no longer patterned around threat.
Your Power Was Not Stolen… It Was Offered
This can feel confronting… and yet deeply freeing.
Your power was not stolen.
You offered it… piece by piece… because at the time it helped you survive.
You learned to:
- shrink so others wouldn’t react
- be agreeable instead of honest
- keep the peace at the cost of yourself
- over-give to avoid abandonment
- perform instead of simply existing
These were intelligent strategies.
They protected you.
But because your power was offered… not taken… something beautiful becomes possible:
You are allowed to withdraw the offer now.
Not angrily.
Not with revenge.
Not in dramatic declarations.
But through healing your nervous system gently so your body finally trusts…
“It is safe to be fully here again.”
You’re not snatching power back.
You’re remembering that it was always yours.
What Begins To Shift As Your System Heals
When your nervous system stabilises… change doesn’t feel explosive or dramatic.
It feels quiet.
Subtle.
Grounded.
You may begin to:
- explain yourself less
- choose truth over peacekeeping
- set boundaries without shaking
- pause before reacting
- walk away sooner instead of staying to prove loyalty
- honour your limits without guilt
Life stops feeling like an emergency.
Your self-worth steps out of negotiation.
Power stops feeling like tension…
…and begins to feel like calm presence.
This is sovereignty…
No theatrics.
No performance.
No proving.
Just a steady, grounded sense of… “I am here.”
Healing Your Nervous System Gently Means Respecting Pace
We live in a world that glorifies intensity.
Big releases.
Huge breakthroughs.
Spiritual fireworks.
But the nervous system doesn’t heal through shock.
It heals through gentleness… familiarity… tenderness… safety.
Healing your nervous system gently may look like:
- choosing one supportive habit instead of trying to overhaul your life
- saying “not today” without needing a long explanation
- choosing environments where your body naturally softens
- letting yourself rest without earning it first
- allowing emotions to move slowly instead of forcing yourself to “break through”
This is not passivity.
This is deep self-leadership.
When your body believes you are safe… your power finally has somewhere steady to land.
Calling Your Power Back Without Fighting Life
Calling your power back does not mean shutting down, cutting everyone off, or moving through the world as if everything is dangerous.
It means re-inhabiting yourself.
It means noticing where your energy leaks… and gently closing the door.
It sounds like…
“I choose who has access to me.
I choose how far I go.
I choose how my energy is spent.”
Power becomes intentional.
Not defended.
Not performed.
Not feared.
Healing your nervous system gently allows your power to become sustainable.
Because power that is rooted in safety doesn’t burn you out… it nourishes you.
Your Power Wants To Stay… Become A Safe Home For It
Your power isn’t asking to be seized.
It is asking to be tended.
Held.
Respected.
As your system steadies, your inner world becomes a place where power can rest rather than hide.
You move slower.
You trust your timing.
You listen to your body before you listen to pressure.
You stop abandoning yourself in order to belong.
And here… sovereignty begins.
Not from the fight…
but from remembering that your body, your pace, your energy, your truth… are sacred.
This is the heart of healing your nervous system gently.
Sometimes your nervous system needs a doorway into softness first.
If you want something deeply soothing and body-led, I love Rasa’s Full Body Scan meditations, they help you reconnect with your felt sense of safety and presence.
And if you’re curious about how the mind, energy, and the nervous system work together, Joe Dispenza’s teachings on rewiring the subconscious and healing patterns can be incredibly supportive.
Further Reading
The Field of Self-Worth: How the Universe Reflects the Value You Hold
Becoming Secure Attachment: Learning Safety From the Inside Out
The Silent Gold: Why True Worth Doesn’t Need to Prove Itself
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